My mother has inspired me in ways more than one. She has inspired me with her love, with her courage, with her strength, with her wit, with her intelligence and in many other ways that I can’t seem to explain. So it’s not a surprise that I was inspired to write a post about her when I saw a picture she had shared on her Facebook profile.
The picture spoke a thousand words. It also spoke to me about why she must have felt the need to share it. The picture was titled ‘Just a Mom’; it explained why Mothers who stay at home are not ‘just moms’ but play a different role at each time of the day in their child’s life.
My mother was a Stay At Home Mom (SAHM) by choice. She married really young, had me within a year of her marriage and my sister 4 years later. Ever since she became a mom, everything she did was for us. She did not think of a world outside of us, we were her world, her family! Every time she is being introduced to someone she would proudly say “I am a Mom and a Wife”. And every time the response I heard was “Oh! Ok”. Of course, their response never perturbed mom, or so I believed until I saw the picture she shared. This picture took me on a little trip down the memory lane. It provided more than enough reasons to prove that my mom was not ‘just a mom’; she was much more than that.
My earliest memory is from when I was 3 years old. I have a vague memory of being in the green room for some kind of a show and smudging my face with all kinds of make-up that was in my reach. I remember my mom coming into the room, looking at me in horror and then bursting out in laughter and picking me up. I remember giggling with her when she oh so lovingly wiped the make-up off my face! A few years later, I learned that the event was organized by the Company my dad worked for to mark a very important achievement. They requested my mom to perform at the event because she is a trained classical dancer. A dancer so good that she could have become a professional if she wanted to! But she chose to be my Mom!
My mom often tells me that I was the naughty one amongst the 2 of us. I would always come up with crazy games and thing to do! I remember this one incident when I had invented this crazy game where my sister had to jump across off me in her skates while I lay down on the ground (yeah…I was crazy like that). I was 10 years old at the time. It seemed liked a lot of fun, and it was, for the 3 times that my sister managed to jump across me, but on her 4th try instead of jumping across me, she jumped right onto me! She landed with her knees on my chest, the force of the blow knocked me out and I lost consciousness. Apparently my heart briefly stopped beating, I have no memory of what followed. But later found out that my mom heard my sister scream and was at my side in a split second. She performed CPR on me and brought me back to life. At that time, she became my medic!
As a teenager, like most kids, even I did things just to fit in and prove a point. I started dating someone I didn’t even care about only because it was cool to be on the popular group! My mom figured out that I was doing this only to fit in. She took me on a walk to a beach where she spoke about love, about having the courage to be yourself, about self-respect and self-esteem. That walk taught me some very valuable life lessons! At that time, she became my personal counselor!
When it was time for me to leave for college, my mom sat me down and taught me how to manage my finances. She gave tips and tricks that would help me. At that time, she was my personal financial advisor!
When I was getting married, she became a wedding planner. She planned and organized the whole event. At that time, she was my personal shopping assistant and event planner!
When I had my son, she was there with me at the hospital, all 5 days, then at home with me for the next 3 months. She taught me how to be a mother! She taught me all the home remedies I could use to treat my baby’s infections. At that time, she became my baby’s very own, personal, on call 24/7 pediatrician!
When my world turned upside down and I fell into depression, she took me under wings along with my son! She nursed me back to health, she taught me to be my stronger confident self again all the while taking care of my little baby! At that time, she became my personal therapist!
This was my experience, I am sure there are more people out there who can reminisce at all the wonderful things their moms have done for them!
I will proudly say that a mother is never ‘Just a Mom’, she is your very own alarm clock, cook, maid, waitress, teacher, nurse, referee, handyman, security officer, photographer, therapist, financial advisor, chauffeur, event planner, personal assistant and everything else that you can add to this list! So every time someone tells me that they are a SAHM, I say “Wow that is awesome!”
I smiled as I typed a comment to that picture my mom shared, I wrote “You are everything to me, Mom!”